Well it’s that time of year again when the clocks have gone back, the days are shorter, the weather is colder and I know I start to get that little bit grumpier, more tired and having sudden cravings for the high fibre white loaf in big toast slices from Baker’s delight, lathered with creamy butter and honey. Can anyone else relate?
On occasion, we can all start to suddenly feel a little overwhelmed with life and this may be due to a combination of personal circumstances, the Winter Blues, the fact that nearly half the year has slipped by already, a trauma or the pressure that comes with our busy lives and the need to fit so much into a day, and now they feel even shorter than before because it’s dark at 5.30pm! Our minds as mothers, employees and wives are overloaded with things to remember and achieve, micromanaging of kids, a household and our husbands and any other outside factors or people in our lives and this can be quite fatiguing sometimes and can catch up with us when we don’t even realise it’s taking a toll on our mental or physical health. For example; Do you skip meals? Do you grump at the kids because something else has bothered you? Do you keep getting sick? Cant’ sleep properly? Is the tip of your ice berg about to melt down?
I felt compelled to write today because I want people who are having a hard time to know that they are not alone in their struggle and that it’s okay to feel vulnerable sometimes. The nature of my businesses and my personal connections mean that I come in contact with a lot of people and check in with them from time to time and I have been blown away by the number of people who are going through a tough time lately and thought they were all on their own in their circumstances. A simple reach out has held a different meaning for the person on the other end of the message who are simply looking for empathy, understanding, advice, comfort and even someone to just listen. I urge you just to check in with your friends every now and then, even though you are incredibly busy yourself as you may never know what’s going on in their world unless you ask. It costs nothing to do so, doesn’t take much time and I know I’ve said it before, but the power of your words can turn someone’s day around when you least expect it. Smiles cost nothing too and are contagious by the way (not sure if that’s a medical fact or not but you can do that trial quite safely yourself).
“You have two eyes, and two ears, but only one mouth. This is so because you are supposed to look and listen more than you talk.” ― Lucca Kaldahl
It’s an incredible relief to hear someone say, I know how you are feeling or I understand because I have felt the same way in the past. I’m sure there are plenty of people out there who boast to have a perfectly smooth life within their household and with their children and portray that they are totally cool with everything; but don’t be fooled! I’m sure there are moments when an ‘F’ bomb comes out when there’s a fight over the remote (possible real experience), they’re hiding in the pantry eating the last of the cooking chocolate out of desperation when it’s that time of the month, they’re having a quiet sob in the shower when they feel there’s just not enough of them to give or the thought of flannelette pyjamas, an electric blanket and a weighty doona trumps anything else hot and heavy in the bedroom. And you know what, it’s okay to feel that way because we are only human and we all have moments of vulnerability; we are not robots.
Just remember to ask, are you okay as we all fight the onset of Winter Blues.