Sorry about the naff picture of Britney Spears but the word toxic just makes her song pop into my head every time! Anyway, moving on from 90’s pop music…
How many people have bad days sometimes? Do you often wake up full of motivation and positivity, only to end up dragged down to a state of blubbering mess, looking for a peppermint Kit Kat, chewing your nails with an elevated heart rate and feeling like the whole world is against you not long after you day has even begun? There’s nothing worse that the feeling of being overwhelmed, under-appreciated or feeling unhappy in your own body or own head for that matter.
Sometimes we need to take a step back and look at some of the cumulative factors that lead to these feelings; look at what toxins around us are doing the damage. The word toxin or toxic is usually associated with things like harmful ingredients for example, but toxicity can disguise itself as many forms which can affect us everyday without us realising it.
Toxicity can come in the form of:
* Technology: Overuse of our technology can lead us to eliminating actual personal interactions, conversations and general social skills practice as well as etiquette and knowing when you should comment and when you should just keep your thoughts to yourself.
* Poor diet: Our bodies don’t function correctly when we don’t look after them. This can lead to moodiness, fatigue, feeling sluggish, being overweight and health problems. The compounding effect is also on our self-esteem and whether were are happy/unhappy in our own skin.
* Bad habits: Smoking, excessive drinking or drugs, lack of exercise, too much refined sugar or stimulants such as coffee or energy drinks. (Over consumption of sugar can lead to blood sugar crash and sometimes the body converts sugar to fat and therefore stores it on your body). Remember, what goes up must come down; your mind and body will just keep chasing the ‘up’ in a never ending cycle.
* Toxic friends, relationships or workplace: YOUR VIBE ATTRACTS YOUR TRIBE. This is a great saying and a good one to reflect on. Consider why spending the time with negative people is making you feel different. Is there a situation that gives you a funny pang in your stomach that tells you something isn’t right around you? Perhaps you feel like you should surround yourself with more like-minded people?
* Are to toxic to yourself? How do you talk to yourself in your own head? Would you talk to your children or friends the same way as you talk to yourself? Possible… but unlikely. We constantly tell ourselves we’re too fat, too messy, not worthy, a poor parent or just not enough.
These are all physical things that can be changed and a mindset that can be altered in order to achieve so much.
“Your philosophy attracts your attitudes, which create your actions, which creates your results, which creates your life. ” Jeff Olson, The Slight Edge
This simple formula can be applied to help remove the toxins surrounding you to help make the changes you desire in order to have a good day every day (or nearly every day because let’s face it, I’m still a realist and shit does happen sometimes).
Positive attitude > Positive actions > Positive results = Positive lifestyle.
* Switch off the news/social media in the morning and start your day by reading or listening to something inspiring. Un-friend/unfollow the people who constantly post content that gets you cross about things irrelevant to you or just don’t read it.
* Switch habits: Make healthier choices, exercise for half an hour per day, swap your Netflix membership for a gym membership.
* Set realistic goals to kick some bad habits and have a trusty accountability partner to support you.
* Surround yourself with positive, open minded people or look for a career that makes you happy. You might think, ‘but what if it doesn’t work out?’… but what if it does?
* Tell yourself the wonderful things you’re going to achieve, do daily affirmations if it helps you (sticky notes on the bathroom mirror for example). Consider the example we’re setting our children. There’s no way we would ever tell them not to reach for their dreams, that they’re not good enough, not pretty enough (insert Kasey Chambers photo here..lol) or not worthy enough of being loved, so don’t do it to yourself.
Every now and then we have to clean out the cupboard under the kitchen sink to make space for better choices. Good luck with your detox! xo