I know I’ve written a lot about gratitude and making the most of things lately but I just wanted to share some pearls of wisdom and inspiration after attending a fantastic event organised by a friend of mine that was so empowering for a lot of people from all walks of life.
A room full of people came together and shared their stories, visions, ups and downs and you couldn’t help but be moved or relate to a person or their story.
I heard women talking about events in their lives that have put them at rock bottom but they always found a way to move forward and find happiness again, which is something I can personally relate to after some bouts of depression and physical injuries.
Sometimes as a mother or father, a wife or husband, an employee, a friend, a business owner, which ever hat you’re wearing at the time, we feel guilt or a sense of failure or never being able to do enough when things are going wrong. It’s hard when you’re in the moment to see past the situation but please try and remember that YOU ARE ENOUGH and manage the things that ARE in your control and work through the ones that aren’t. One of the things that resonated with me from yesterday was that you’re not in fact failing but perhaps “things are just not going as planned”, whether this be your marriage, your health goals, money or even just trying to make the world’s best birthday cake for your 6 year old. I am slowly getting better at taking this on board and learning to go with the flow more rather than getting out of sorts when my super-planner, border-line OCD side takes over (which is most of the time by the way).
Another thing that keeps popping into my world through different ways is that your words can affect people and change their lives without you even realising it. In my former career I was told, “You need to back yourself more, you’re great at what you do” and this gave me a new bout of confidence at a time when I was suffering low self-esteem. On a personal note, a dear friend of mine once said to me that my thirties should be the “happiest time of my life” as they were for her (and weren’t for me at the time) and I will never forget that defining moment when I made the decision to take back control of my life and DO WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY. Those small sentences have lead to me finding love, changing careers after 15 years of comfort zone to be more present for my family, tackling a Diploma at the same time as spinal fusion surgery (crazy right?), getting my fitness back after surgery, working somewhere new that is rewarding and full of beautiful people and children and backing myself to start two businesses that embrace what makes me happy. How lucky am I to have all these options and variety that I created for myself and have given me the time freedom to enjoy them?
Recently a few of us from my family had the Lighthouse walk at the amazing Wilson’s Promontory on our bucket lists to achieve and we thought ‘stuff it, we’ll just book it in’ and did it! All four of us have overcome some physical problems in the last couple of years and I’m proud to say we tackled it and it made us so happy and left us on a high for the working week to come. You get one chance at life to cram as many experiences in as possible so why not make the most of it?
What is it that makes you happy? Allow yourself to be creative, do the music, art or singing lessons you’ve been too nervous to try, strive for your fitness or weight loss goal and tackle a Tough Mudder just for fun, ask that person out for a coffee, go hiking, change careers if you’re not happy or just try something new; you might just surprise yourself and turn your world around.