My parents will be the first ones to agree that in my twenties, I thought I knew everything and that I was in the prime of my life. Well, that was back in the B.C years (Before Children), when I never understood how much time I actually had back then and how I should have been making the most of it in the most constructive ways.
A lot of people may agree that it’s a bit of a rite of passage to spend your twenties socialising (aka drinking) with friends, then sleeping the weekend away or feeling hung over and therefore binging on coffee and greasy food, and back then it didn’t matter. There were no other priorities, weight stayed off and you could just hit snooze half a dozen times, even on Monday morning before work because there was only one person who needed to get ready in the morning and you could live off a quick cup of coffee for breakfast.
However, for a lot of us, as life unfolds and marriage, a career and amazing but ever-demanding little people arrive, you begin to realise that you weren’t really that busy before that happened after all. Now it’s a real struggle to make time or leverage time so that everybody is happy, fed, dressed, the bills are paid on time, the homework is done, you make it to school assembly, no-one has any Lego stuck up their nose or the Skink retrieved from the garden hasn’t escaped into the boys’ messy bedroom, you’ve spent quality time with the family and add on top of that; make sure your day job is complete, you’ve sold all the raffle tickets for the school fund-raiser, run the kids to sporting commitments and music lessons etc. etc. and if you’re lucky you’ll get time to squeeze some exercise in or time out for yourself somewhere that isn’t the supermarket without the kids in tow….! Exhausting isn’t it?
We all want to gain back more time somehow and spend it with our loved ones, have a hobby, travel and follow our passions and are constantly looking for ways to find a work/life balance that suits us. The way we work now is evolving to accommodate this balance a bit better and there are opportunities to gain this time back, without having to give up our earning potential. Our mental and physical health is also extremely important and without good mental and physical health, all of the before-mentioned daily activities don’t come so easily, which is something I have learned the hard way.
Try and make time to go for a walk on the treadmill when the kids are in bed or at music lessons, go for a coffee with your loved one on your lunch break to see how their day is going, think outside the square on how you can be working and gaining back more time in your world and don’t be afraid to make a change that works better for you instead of staying in the same rut.
Keep an open mind and think about what’s the best fit for you and your family, as time is something we can never get back but we can gain when we find a way to tweak a few things.